"I asked all of the gay male students in the room to raise their hand if in the past week they touched a woman’s body without her consent. After a moment of hesitation, all of the hands of the gay men in the room went up. I then asked the same gay men to raise their hand if in the past week they offered a woman unsolicited advice about how to “improve” her body or her fashion. Once again, after a moment of hesitation, all of the hands in the room went up.

These questions came after a brief exploration of gay men’s relationship to American fashion and women’s bodies. That dialogue included recognizing that gay men in the United States are often hailed as the experts of women’s fashion and by proxy women’s bodies. In addition to this there is a dominant logic that suggests that because gay men have no conscious desire to be sexually intimate with women, our uninvited touching and groping (physical assault) is benign."

Here’s a friendly reminder:


-You cannot be sexist toward men. Sexism is based on a system of oppression. You CAN be discriminatory, rude, inconsiderate, and/or prejudiced against men but you CANNOT be sexist toward them.

-You cannot be racist towards white people. Racism is based on a system of oppression. You CAN be discriminatory, rude, inconsiderate, and/or prejudiced against white people but you CANNOT be racist toward them.

This is not difficult.

(via aandyrea)


If milkshakes bring boys to the yard, what brings girls? Smoothies? What brings non-binary cuties? Frappucinos? I need to know.

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straight women who casually use the word “girlfriend” to refer to their platonic lady friends, i have nothing against you, but you make the world really confusing,

I love this because it means that just a little, heteronormativity has decreased

i think a woman who would never say “boyfriend” to refer to a platonic male friend using the word “girlfriend” for a platonic female friend and assuming everyone will know it is a non-romantic relationship evidently by very nature of it being between two women is actually kind of the definition of heteronormativity

(via hueva-york)

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Janet Mock joins Marie Claire magazine as contributing editor


Writer and activist Janet Mock will be joining the staff of Marie Claire magazine as a contributing editor, with her first piece appearing in the print magazine in the fall.

One of the first times Janet came into the public eye was in 2011, when her story about being a trans woman was published in Marie Claire magazine. That piece has been referred to over and over in her career, and while she has stated that it was imperfect, she’s returning to the magazine to tell more stories about what it means to be a woman. 

Mock writes in “Redefining Realness” that her success has resulted in what she calls “survivor guilt.” Since the publication of the essay in Marie Claire in 2011, Mock has become a national figure in the transgender movement. She knows that not all transgender women, and especially not all transgender women of color, have the kind of access she has to employment, health care and personal safety. She told Poynter that she hopes having been open and vulnerable in the book and in her other work will show other women that their stories matter and empower women to share those stories.

Fulenwider said she hopes that the magazine can be a place women see themselves, no matter who they are.

“People who have been kept in the shadows, or feel that they’ve been kept in the shadows, or who feel that they don’t have a public forum, or feel that they’ve had to hide, I hope will feel a bit more validated or just a part of the larger cultural conversation,” Fulenwider said. “You shouldn’t feel ashamed of who you are.”

Yes yes yes. ALL about elevating trans women/TWOC’s voices in mainstream women’s media, and Janet is the perfect person to start the movement. 


“If you really believe that representation doesn’t matter, then why the fuck are you threatened by it? If not seeing yourself depicted in stories has no negative psychological impact - if the breakdown of who we see on screen has no bearing on wider social issues - then what would it matter if nine stories out of ten were suddenly all about queer brown women? No big, right? It wouldn’t change anything important; just a few superficial details. Because YOU can identify with ANYONE.

So I guess the problem is that you just don’t want to. Because deep down, you think it’ll make stories worse. And why is that? Oh, yeah: because it means they wouldn’t all be about YOU.”

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